I don't love everyone. Never claimed to. In fact, I think it's bullshit when I hear anyone claiming that we should "love" everyone. Mostly, I see it from a lot of hypocritical bible-thumping freaks - you know, the ones who take religion and molest it and mutilate it until they can wear it like a suit made of skin.
I can't love everyone and I don't want to. Take, for example, NSIL. I don't love her. I don't even like her. The idea that I could have loved her was lost a long time ago, when I realized that she had been gutted and stuffed so that NMIL could maneuver her like a marionette doll. Just as there isn't much there for me to hate, there isn't much there for me to love either.
And really, love is a choice. I don't have to put my love and faith in anyone who doesn't deserve it. I don't feel guilt over admitting that the people I love consist of a relatively small group. Anyone who claims to love everyone is either lying or selling something.
I choose to give love where I see fit, which does not mean that I am unempathetic, nor does it indicate that I am cruel. What it means is that I choose to be real all the time, with everyone. I choose not to pretend to love people who are meaningless to me; I choose not to confuse the maintenance of my personal boundaries with selfishness; I choose not to offer my hand to those who continue to slap it away; I choose not to be intimidated when anyone else comes along and says I should be loving THEIR way.
Beware of people who walk around claiming to love everyone. With narcissists, the proclamations generally look like this:
"What? You called me beautiful? THANK YOU SO MUCHHHHHH!!! I LOOOOOVEE YOUUUUUUUUU! XOXOXOXO [smiley face, smiley face]
When you see that shit, run. Run for the fucking hills and don't look back.