On November 21, 2012, the day before Thanksgiving, DH received a letter in the mail from his NSIS. I will not be discussing it in this post but you can expect to see both my analysis and DH's in a few days time. I think there are a number of people in our community who might recognize their own narcissistic or otherwise emotionally unhealthy siblings in NSIL's letter to my husband.
For now, I wanted to share something from a book that DH and I have been reading: The Gift of Fear: And other Survival Signals That Protect us From Violence by Gavin de Becker. If you haven't already read the book, I highly recommend it. De Becker clearly conveys his message about how to read the signs that violence (either emotional or physical) is imminent, how to trust our own gut instincts, and how to protect ourselves and those we love. It's my belief that anyone who has ever dealt with a narcissist would benefit from having this kind of self-awareness and self-confidence.
The chapter I'd like to share with you is entitled Persistence, Persistence. It's a bit of a long read, but I have not read a book yet that parallels in clarity or versatility in terms of how to deal with people who stalk us and threaten us with emotional violence: