After several days of not being in the office, DH went in to work yesterday and discovered that on November 6, 2012, his sister called him at work six times. She called him six times but didn't leave any messages. She called him at 2:20 PM, 2:21 PM, 3:17 PM, 3:41 PM, 3:42 PM, and 3:47 PM. Then, at 4:03 PM, she tweeted the line I wrote about in this post: "You're the only one that could somewhat understand this and make me feel slightly better right now but that won't happen." Dear Readers, if we had any doubt before that the person she was tweeting about was my husband, that doubt has since been completely erased. Following that whopper, she posted one superficial, yet insightful tweet about how she missed high school and wanted to relive those four years, and one final tweet about the election at 6:38 PM. Roughly around that same time was when her NM posted the gag-worthy picture of the two of them from Exhibit A's wedding that was likely put there as NMIL's "big effort" to show what a "supportive" mommy she is.
DH and I think it likely that it was around that time that NSIL was discharged from the hospital. We've tossed around a couple of ideas about NSIL's behaviors before she started her ongoing internet hiatus and these are the most-likely possibilities we came up with:
- Her impending discharge from the hospital was fast approaching and she was desperate enough to call DH again, perhaps in the hope that he would come and take her away; rescue her from whatever rehabilitation clinic she was about to be shuttled off to; or come and see her.
- She was attempting to manipulate him into calling her back by overwhelming him with tons of phone calls but never leaving a message stating what she wanted. I will admit, she's peaked my curiosity and DH has been antsy for the last 48 hours, trying to figure out what the hell she was calling about. I suggested that she chose not to leave messages because, though clearly desperate as indicated by the number of times she called and the fact that each call was only a few minutes (in some cases only one minute) apart, she sensed that the suspense created gave her more power and control than she would have had otherwise.
- I also pointed out to DH that I'm kind of pissed. Because in all this time, she's never once picked up the phone to try calling DH. She's never once sent him a card or a letter or tried to email him. (And acknowledge me or our children? Forget it.) But now that she needs something and her life is in a state of crisis she's blowing up his phone. Now that she wants him she's contacting him. And that bothers me because she's just using him; and when he doesn't respond the way she wants him to, it will likely just cement her loyalty to her NM; who is no doubt back there, even as I write this, pulling all of her strings and triangulating. And really what it comes down to, in my opinion, is that it is not our problem that NSIL is so fucking enmeshed with her slimy NM that she went NC with us when DH sent his letter of NC to NMIL. I've always wondered whether NSIL knew about that letter, and though that question has still not been answered and probably won't ever be, it is pretty apparent to me that NSIL didn't require that kind of knowledge to choose who she was more loyal to. And it's not our fucking problem. If she wants to live with some bitch who's going to lie to her and to everyone else, who's going to steal her fucking mail, who's going to engage in power struggles every damn second of her damn life, then that's NSIL's problem. Not ours.
Which reminds me: We do think it likely that NMIL has intercepted DH's letters to his sister. Which is unfortunate because I have NO DOUBT that she has confiscated them, that she will read them (all under that "loving mother" guise, if she needs to explain to anyone why she has gone through her daughter's mail) and that she will ONLY show them to NSIL if, and only if, she can use them to further manipulate. If she can't, or she feels those letters are too much of a risk to her power, then NSIL will never see them and NMIL will "forget" they ever existed.
DH told me today that it bothers him to think that his sister is out there somewhere, thinking that he didn't try at all; thinking that he didn't try to contact her. I welcomed DH into my world, and then we talked about how much it sucks that not only is it likely that she will not ever see those letters, but that even if she does, they probably won't help her because either her NM will be using them to manipulate -OR- as I've mentioned before, she'll just become enraged because DH hasn't offered her the kind of help she is looking for.
After all, what she really wants is for DH to "make her feel better." He's the ONLY one who can do that, you see.
On a better note, we received the return receipt in the mail today for the NC letter we put in the mail for J. He received the letter two days ago, November 13, 2012. It was a pleasant surprise for us because we had thought, after we immediately got EFIL and L's return receipt, that J was going to let his expire or refuse to sign for it. As it turns out, luck was with us because he clearly did get it.
We have not heard a peep out of anyone and we figure that they are all hiding in the shadows, waiting for the next opportunity to strike. My guess is that their next move, that NMIL's next move, is going to be a big one.
I've got my face painted, my armor polished, and my battle axe ready, folks. Those fuckers ain't getting in here. Ain't no way. Ain't no how.