So, you know that little fact about how NSIL dropped out of college? Well, from what I can tell, this is what she's doing with all her spare time now:
1. Complaining about how shitty her life is on Twitter
2. Getting a sparkly-new car from her Nmommy
3. Getting her nails done
4. Getting her hair done
5. Going to dance clubs
6. Getting wasted
7. Sleeping in her "comfiest in all the land" bed at 3:30 in the afternoon because she's so tired from partying the night before
8. Getting tattooed
9. Waiting for all of her "friends" to get home from college on break so that she can party more
10. Posing for pictures that her Nmommy can post on Facebook to show the world just how happy they are
What I'm not seeing is someone who is stepping out of her NM's shadow, nor do I see a girl who would be at all receptive to hearing from my DH, unless of course it's communication that she wants to hear (you know: "I've divorced that bitch, Jonsi! I'm so sorry I hurt you. I'm coming back to live with you and Nmommy and I promise to never leave you again!") I think DH would be wasting his time and wasting his breath at this point, and that contacting her would just be opening up the floodgates all over again.
For now, we'll wait. And we are resigned to waiting forever, which at this point seems likely.