So now, EFIL and L have two grandchildren on L's side, with another on the way in September.
My, but aren't they just the "picture" of the perfect little family, right? I envision them having their
DH has always said that he felt like an outsider whenever he spent time with his father and step-mother and her kids. Whenever he spent time with his father and his father's new family, he describes feeling like he didn't belong, like he wasn't a part of their family unit. So it's not all that surprising that a man who never had a real interest in his own son wouldn't have a real interest in his son's children either.
But, there is of course, good news in all of this, and that is that DH's EF may very well have given up on his "effort" to win DH back. EFIL and L can broadcast their attempts to the world, saying that it was DH and I who sabotaged our "loving" relationship with them, after which they'll likely never speak of us again, except in hushed tones behind their hands when a neighbor or distant cousin unknowingly opens up a can of worms by asking about the kid in all the family photos that never seems to be around. In my estimation, EFIL and L are happy, having sent their last parting shots (a nasty birthday message to me and one final email to DH in which EFIL spearheaded the idea that he will NEVER accept DH's reality) and feel that they can rest easy, since they've done their "good deeds for the day." Personally, I think EFIL and L are nearly done with what amounted to a weak rescue campaign and that they will go on about their business ignoring that DH was ever a son of theirs to begin with.
I consider all of that to be a blessing because, if they aren't going to change, I don't want them around anyway. I'll just sit back and enjoy the peace and quiet. Eventually, if they haven't already, they'll give up.