I had a brilliant idea last night. I am going to compile all the documentation that I've kept over the past few years and turn it into a book, of sorts. I want to collect all of my "evidence of narcissism," including the posts I've written here on my blog, any stuff and nonsense that has been sent to us that I've kept in a file, and DH's blog posts. I'll photocopy old cards that were sent to us and write up my analysis of them if I haven't already done so on my blog. Then, when I've gotten everything together, I'll start my book project.
Someday, when it's "done" and I've said all I wanted to say on the matter, I'll have it bound and keep it on our bookshelves as a history, so to speak. I believe it is important to document what has gone on these past few years concerning DH's FOO. I want it to be public knowledge that our children know what has happened and see the struggles their daddy has gone through. I want them to know where he came from and see how hard he has worked, and will continue working, to break the dysfunctional chains his parents wrapped so tightly around him. If our children so choose, they can share that history with their children as well.
I think it is crucial that we share with our descendents their history - all facets, good and bad. Doing so may not prevent such ugliness in their own lives, but it is, at least, a start. I hope I can help my children open their eyes, so that they are awake and aware.
I've also toyed with the idea of leaving a copy somewhere in the house the next time we do major construction, like behind a wall or under a loose floorboard. There is something very liberating to me about the idea that I can share this bit of history with others...that they can hold it in their hands and be enlightened, even if they only happen upon it accidentally. Through that piece of writing, they too can know of my husband's struggles and our fight to break free.
[Whispering] You want to know a secret? I'll let you in on it. What the narcissists hate most of all is to be revealed. They hate those they can not fool. They feel powerless when they are exposed. You want some of your power back, Dear Reader? Then expose them. In whatever way you can, with whatever courage you can muster (and I know you have it in you): Expose them. A little bit at a time, or all at once, it doesn't matter. If you keep fighting the good fight, the narcissists don't stand a chance. You can do it.