I found the following article here and thought the information was very interesting. It immediately made me think of people I have known in the past, namely NMIL, though there are others, who were very successful in business (or on their way up-and-up). I find that skilled manipulators such as narcs and sociopaths are the kind of people who always seem so lazy and incapable, yet there they are, running their own businesses and living rich lifestyles we can only dream of. With NMIL, any time we were in her presence, I just couldn't help but think that she was completely incapable of, well, anything. I couldn't see this woman scrubbing her kitchen floor or decorating her jumbo house. I actually found myself wondering who unpacked all her Christmas decorations every year, because it couldn't possibly have been her. She gave off such an air of uselessness, which is probably because she just got everyone else to do all the heavy lifting for her. She paid someone to take care of her yard. She probably had a house-keeper. She's filthy rich, though only when she wants to be - and by that I mean, when she's trying to get her son to feel guilty as a way to escape blame for her lies, THEN she's not doing well financially, of course.
I think there is a reason why so many narcs are rich, and it has nothing to do with work-ethic, desire, or capability. Instead, it has everything to do with the fact that they are highly-skilled manipulators who work their way to the top (and stay there!) by dark and insidious means. I'm sure I've mentioned it before, but NMIL is quite wealthy and owns her own business. This article seems to describer her well. Does anyone else see similarities in their own narcissistic FOOs?
One in 25 business leaders may be a psychopath, study finds
by Steven Morris
September 1, 2011
One out of every 25 business leaders could be psychopathic, a study claims.
The study, conducted by the New York psychologist Paul Babiak, suggests that they disguise the condition by hiding behind their high status, playing up their charm and by manipulating others.
Favorable environmental factors such as a happy childhood mean they can function in a workplace rather than channeling their energies in more violent or destructive ways. Revealing the results in a BBC Horizon documentary, Babiak said: "Psychopaths really aren't the kind of person you think they are.
"In fact, you could be living with or married to one for 20 years or more and not know that person is a psychopath.
"We have identified individuals that might be labelled 'the successful psychopath'.
"Part of the problem is that the very things we're looking for in our leaders, the psychopath can easily mimic.
"Their natural tendency is to be charming. Take that charm and couch it in the right business language and it sounds like charismatic leadership."
Babiak designed a 111-point questionnaire with Professor Bob Hare, of the University of British Columbia in Canada, a renowned expert in psychopathy. Hare believes about 1% of Americans can be described as psychopaths.
The survey suggests psychopaths are actually poor managerial performers but are adept at climbing the corporate ladder because they can cover up their weaknesses by subtly charming superiors and subordinates.
This makes it almost impossible to distinguish between a genuinely talented team leader and a psychopath, Babiak said. Hare told Horizon: "The higher the psychopathy, the better they looked – lots of charisma and they talk a good line.
"But if you look at their actual performance and ratings as a team player and productively, it's dismal. Looked good, performed badly.
"You have to think of psychopaths as having at their disposal a very large repertoire of behaviors. So they can use charm, manipulation, intimidation, whatever is required.
"A psychopath can actually put themselves in your skin, intellectually not emotionally.
"They can tell what you're thinking, they can look at your body language, they can listen to what you're saying, but what they don't really do is feel what you feel.
"What this allows them to do is use words to manipulate and con and to interact with you without the baggage of feeling your pain."